At every wedding, marriage advice is heaped on the newly wed couple - ranging anywhere from life changing to horrible. These 11 Reddit users shared beautiful advice every person seeking (or building) love needs to know. Let it transform your relationship too.
1. The beauty of hanging out
"If you don't genuinely like hanging out with each other, it probably isn't going to work. You need to have a good platonic relationship as well as a romantic one."
2. The hard talks early
"Learn to talk to each other about money and finances early and often."
3. Be quiet
"Silence is ok, you don't have to be talking to each other constantly to be comfortable. Just enjoy each other's company."
4. Do things you don't want to do
"My dad always taught me to ask myself, "Is this the hill you want to die on?" In other words, before you refuse to budge on an issue, make REAL sure it is something you actually care that much about. Just regularly do little things you don't want to do. On the other side of that, of course, is that when you DO choose to stand your ground on an issue, your spouse will know it really matters to you because you don't make a fuss about trivial stuff all the time.
"I see so many couples get into fights over meaningless stuff, because neither one of them will budge an inch on something as stupid as who is going to do the dishes on a Wednesday night. Just let it go sometimes."
5. Have a girlfriend and a wife
"You just have to remember: you have to have a wife, and a girlfriend. Just makes sure it's the same girl."
6. Notice the sacrifices
"Never let her regret making sacrifices for you. Show thanks that you have such a selfless woman in your life."
7. Move in the same direction
"It's not whether you have the same interests in life; it's whether you have the same goals in life."
8. Don't even think it
"Be kind to each other, even when it is hard. No eye-rolling, muttering under your breath, and I really try not to think mean thoughts (example: thinking 'I could do that so much better/faster/easier' when really, I'm just being impatient and there is nothing my spouse is actually doing wrong. Or thinking, 'Why can't
clean up their mess,' and letting that snowball in my head to 'Why is
always messy'.) If it is something that really bothers me, I say something out loud to my spouse."
9. Focus on yourself
"It's not about finding the 'perfect' partner, it's about being a good partner."
10. Be a loser
"When you fight, and you will, don't try to 'win'."
11. Don't wait for a special occasion
"Presents aren't just for special occasions! Sometimes its nice to just do something nice for no reason."
In addition, this same individual gave us this helpful advice to all those stressed about picking gifts.
11.5 Make gifts simple
"A present doesn't have to be jewelry or flowers. Sometimes my husband comes home with my favorite candy or a latte from Sheetz/Starbucks. It makes me feel special."