Rosalind Sedacca, CCT, is a divorce and parenting coach, founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network, and is a regular contributor to Hope After Divorce and Familyshare.com.
Can a pet be helpful to your children during a divorce and the transition after? Without a doubt. If your family has one or more pets, let your children have access to them as much as they desire. There is a great emotional benefit to your children, and they are fortunate that the pets they love can still be in their lives.
If you don't already have a pet, I recommend getting one - but only if you are in a position to be responsible for that innocent animal during this time of additional stress in your life. If a family pet is out of the question, please consider giving your children time to play with the pets of friends and family. Take them to petting zoos. Allow them contact with other life forms that can give them joy at a time when they are likely experiencing stress and insecurity.
Here are 6 key benefits a pet provides for families coping with divorce.
1. Unconditional love
It has been proven that pets are a source of support and unconditional love for children. During and after divorce, when there is so much instability in a child's life, a beloved pet can be the bridge to sanity. While much around them may be changing, sweet Fluffy is still there to love them and be by their side.
2. A confidant
Children like to talk to their pets. They are a trusted friend who they can confide and share their deepest fears. This is truly a gift to children and greatly helps with emotional resiliency. Pets are nonjudgmental. They listen attentively. They "understand," and they always love you back. Isn't that what your children need at a time like this?
Pets have been shown to help children better cope with challenging times within a family. They feel less alone and abandoned. The relationship with the pet provides a deep sense of security that can't easily be duplicated. Kids rarely outgrow their bond with Fluffy, even when they mature into their teens.
4. Bridge to adults
Pets can bridge the emotional and communication gap between adults and children, especially when Mom and Dad are preoccupied with so many details during and after a divorce. They are a source of calm as the family moves through the storm of post-divorce transition.
5. Stress reduction
Medical studies have shown that pets are just as beneficial for adults. Walking and talking to your dog or petting your cat can actually lower blood pressure and cholesterol levels, not to mention overall stress. Pets also are a great source of joy; a reminder that there are other aspects of life that are still wonderful to experience.
6. Best friend
. Pets also provide unconditional love, nurturing and comfort to adults who greatly need it as they transition through the grief of divorce. They're a best friend when you're alone and an appreciative ear when you want to vent or shed tears.
Connecting to other life forms is a wonderful way remind us that other beings depend on us for love, sustenance and nurturing - even through a divorce. Here is another helpful article on the greatest gift one can give your children.