Kristen Bell has touched our hearts with the wide variety of roles she has played, from Veronica Mars to Anna from Frozen. She also plays the role of a mother for her two daughters: Lincoln, 4, and Delta, 2.

"I am a parent that actually loves to hear advice from other mothers," she said. "I don't care if your filter is judgmental or altruistic - I still want to hear it because it may be valuable to me."

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What style works best for her?

Bell said she looks all over for different types of parenting methods and styles before deciding what fits best for her family.

Something she has started doing with her daughters is teaching them how to communicate and cope with their feelings

"I stopped saying, 'it's OK,' to anything in their lives," Bell said. "My older daughter gets embarrassed a lot, and I don't say, 'It's OK, it's OK.' I simply sit next to her and say, 'Do you feel embarrassed?' And she'll say, 'Yes.' And I say, 'I feel embarrassed too, sometimes. Sometimes I trip and I feel embarrassed or I break a bowl and I feel embarrassed. I used to feel embarrassed a lot more as a kid, but as you become an adult, some of that stuff goes away."

Bell said she allows her girls to feel validated in their feelings, because saying 'it's OK' makes them think that they're not supposed to be having those feelings.

"We tell them to have feelings," Bell said. "Even if it's a tantrum and they're screaming and crying. I say, 'You know what? You are allowed to be sad right now. You are allowed to be angry. But, you cannot be angry and sad in the middle of the living room while we're having dinner. You're welcome to go up to your bedroom and cry, but you're not allowed to ruin everybody else's evening because you're having a tantrum."

Bell said while she lets her girls show their feelings, she knows how to keep them within reason and with respect to the world around them

Even worse than saying "it's OK" is saying, "you're OK." When your children try speaking to you about how they're feeling, but you brush it off by telling them they're OK, it not only tells them they're wrong for feeling a certain way, but it makes them feel like they can't talk openly with you.

Bell also brought up the term "mom-shaming"

"I do shatter a little bit when I think people don't like me," Bell said. "That is why my husband is such a good match for me because his mantra is: It doesn't matter if anyone else likes you, what matters is if you like you."

Bell says her husband-actor Dax Shepard-often repeats his "mantra" to their daughters, which she has found to be incredibly helpful.

We can all learn something from Kristen and Dax's parenting style. Help your children feel more comfortable and confident in themselves by listening to them and encouraging them to effectively communicate their feelings. Doing so will strengthen your relationship with them now and in the future.

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