As parents, we always feel like we are under a magnifying glass, which not only sees our mistakes (even the unintentional ones) but also magnifies them.
This mom's nightmare started by doing something many parents do
This mother of Cambridgeshire, whose identity remains private, lost her two children for "continually ignoring advice," according to Shared.
The mother shared a bed with her kids
Social workers found bruises on the children and advised her to stop sharing a bed with her children but she didn't listen.
The judge believed the bruises were unintentional
Apparently the mother was using excessive force when sleeping in the same bed and her youngest son, only months old, suffered a fracture in his wrist.
She blamed the older brother for the bruises and fractures, but the judge didn't believe her claims.
However, the judge still believed she was a good mother who loved her children and believed the "abuse" only came from sleeping in the same bed.
They used the mother's personality as evidence. People claimed she believed she knew more than everyone else and didn't accept advice or warnings from others.
Refusing to follow warnings from social workers resulted with the children being put up for adoption
This is a nightmare for any parent, but they finally made the decision after countless warnings and the mother still refusing to comply.
What is considered abuse?
According to the Children's Bureau, such charges can be prosecuted both civilly and criminally.
Abuse is abuse whether it is physical or emotional. Sexual abuse, exploitation of minors and a parent's illegal substance abuse is also considered abuse toward a child.
Neglect is when the caregivers don't give their children basic needs such as food, a safe place to live and healthcare. Threats can also be considered a form of negligence.
Parents must take these precautions
According to PBS Parents, there are several rules parents can follow to discipline the right way:
Understand the meaning behind their behavior and focus on what you can correct in yourself to best help your child.
Focus on controlling yourself and not your child.
Make your expectations consistent. Changing the rules every day for your own convenience is bad for your child.
Explain the behavior you expect from your child and NOT what you don't expect.
Don't say what not to do and encourage positive behavior instead.
Don't let your children drain your energy; use fatigue to your advantage and tell your children that listening to their complaints drains your energy and makes you too tired to play with them later.
Don't bribe - This doesn't work, because the real world expects us to behave well without expecting a reward.
This article is adapted and translated from the original, "Padres pierden la custodia de sus hijos por algo que 'todos' hemos hecho alguna vez con ellos sin saber las consecuencias legales." It was originally published on familias.com.
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