Happy couples are never rude but instead spoil each other with acts of kindness. This is one of the critical things you need to make any relationship work which seems to be a forgotten trait hence why many relationships end in misery. We tend to get in relationships with the wrong expectations, losing their appeal. In relationships, we tend to think about what our partner can do for us, not the other way around. However, according to psychology expert Suzann Pileggi, love is not just a feeling; it's an action verb. If you're wondering how to have better relationships, here are some acts of kindness you can practice.
Start their morning with a kiss.
It might not seem like much, but it's a great way to start both your days. Sneak off to brush your teeth, or roll over and pucker up. Either way, a kiss in the morning can pick up their spirits and make them feel like they're ready to conquer the day.
Avoid harsh words.
When you're in the heat of an argument, you tend to say whatever comes to mind and think of the consequences later. It's easy to lose your temper and use harsh words to express your anger. However, this can be the downfall of your relationship since emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. Showing restraint is one of the kindest things you can do for your partner. It means that you respect them enough not to hurt their feelings. This also solidifies your relationship, showing that you value and respect the other person.
Sneak a love note into their work things.
When was the last time you wrote your partner a love letter? Remind them why they make your heart skip a beat with a note in their lunch bag, their briefcase, or maybe a simple post-it on their laptop will do.
Increase your affection.
If you've been in your relationship for a while, you tend to forget how important it is to show affection. Showing affection should be a regular act of kindness since sparks fizzle overtime when intimacy is neglected. The lack of intimacy and affection can lead to tension and resentment between couples. Sometimes, your partner needs to be wined and dined a little to feel the love. If you don't typically initiate intimacy, try to do it for a change. Give them more hugs, cuddles, kisses, and surprise them with a gift.
Buy them breakfast.
Due to busy schedules, your partner may leave home without having a hearty breakfast. One of the most thoughtful things you can do for them is deliver a hot cup of coffee and some breakfast. You can also occasionally take them on a breakfast date to show you care about their wellbeing. Whether it's a sit-down breakfast at a restaurant or a quick bite from McDonald's, your partner will appreciate your effort. Besides, who doesn't want breakfast from their favorite café?
Smiling is one of the simplest acts of kindness, but you'll be surprised by the difference a simple smile makes. We tend to mirror our partner's emotions, so their mood also changes when they see that you're happy. A smile can also be comforting in times of distress. If you notice your partner has a bad day, try flashing your pearly whites at them and watching how they react. You never know how it'll brighten up their day.
It can be overwhelming when someone carries the weight of the relationship all the time. Being responsible could be one of the kindest things you can do for your partner in the home or personal life. Start with small things such as cleaning after yourself and communicating clearly. You can also plan for your future as a couple. Showing your partner how responsible you are will not only show them that you're mature but also shows that you can handle anything.
Support their dreams.
It's a sweet and kind gesture to have someone's back, especially in a relationship. Ask about your partner's dreams and what you can do to help them achieve them. You may not be able to help them. However, offering physical and emotional support is enough for them to chase after their dreams. Lending a listening ear to their goals can also mean a lot to them and strengthen the relationship.
Make them feel safe.
Relationships should be a safe space where you can let your guard down. As such, one of the most important acts of kindness you can do is make your partner feel secure. Let them know that they can be themselves around you. If they have a moment of weakness, try not to judge them. Instead, let them know that you're there for them and you're willing to support them.
Surprise them with a childhood gift.
Have they mentioned an old action figure they lost and still dream of? Maybe a book they loved but haven't found anywhere since? Head to Amazon or a thrift shop and buy them something you know they'll be delighted to see once again.
Work on their car for them.
It can be as simple as filling the tank, changing the oil, or getting it detailed. Most people put off anything dealing with their cars, so do them a solid and take care of something that needs taking care of.
Give them a massage.
Massages go a long way for most people, whether a simple foot rub or a quick shoulder and back massage. A full-body massage is, of course, even better. Or, if you have limited mobility, don't be afraid to book them a day at a spa simply.
When you're in a relationship, you tend to forget to show affection and care towards your partner. However, displaying acts of kindness towards your partner can bring the two of you closer together in ways that you didn't know. It's best to be genuine when showing these acts of kindness, not because you're looking for something in return.