It had been three days since we got engaged. My fiancée's phone buzzed.

"Notice of Charge on Venmo from: Zack Random Guy."

She hadn't changed my contact name in her phone during the course of our two-month courtship.

She opened the notification: "$16 for MANgagement ring."

A puzzled look crept over her face as she completed the charge nonetheless.

Yeah. That's how it went down. No confession of love, rainstorm kissing or even diamonds (low maintenance kind of guy, you know ... ).

I picked out a ring on Amazon for $16.99 and charged her for it. I decided to cover the $0.99 to not look cheap, but I wanted it to be "from her."

I didn't need the fanfare, the secrecy or even the cost that surrounded my proposal - but I did want a ring.

Since making that decision, I've been met by a lot of super confused people with a lot of surprisingly strong opinions against me wearing a mangagement ring. So let's just clear the air.

Why am I wearing a mangagement ring?

I want to

And that sums it up. My fiancée didn't ask me to, but she loves it.

It isn't that weird

Some celebrities are doing it, like Johnny Depp, Charlie Sheen, David Otunga (Jennifer Hudson's man) and Michael Bublé. The Atlantic also did a piece on it recently where they note that 5 percent of engaged men are rocking a mangagement ring. Not many, but some.

My fiancée has one

I've been most surprised from my "equal rights" friends who are against the mangagement ring. They say that it's weird. I just have to pinch the bridge of my nose with a head shake. There is no pleasing those people. Look; no matter where you stand on mangagement/engagement rings, if she gets/has to wear a ring, I get/have to too!

I want to get used to a ring

It's super weird to go from never wearing rings to wearing a ring. A very thin mangagement ring is a perfect preparation.

I am committed

Not like, "I'll give this a try," sort of thing, but I'm in it to win it. I understand that women typically wear an engagement ring because in our culture, men pursue and this signals to them that a woman is off the market. But things are changing and women are getting more aggressive. While I'm not saying that I have women beating down my door, it's just a safety to make sure we are all on the same page.

So there it is. That's why I'm wearing a mangagement ring. It isn't flashy, but it is meaningful.

Editor's note: This article originally appeared on Zack Oate's blog, It has been republished here with permission.

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