As a single person, it can be difficult to maintain relationships with married friends and family. Each stage of life is so different and uniquely challenging that it can be hard to interact and relate to each other.
Here are 5 things single people want their married friends and family to know:
1. I really am happy
My life may not seem picture-perfect, and it isn't, but I am happy.
This is a great time of life for me to explore the world, develop my talents, and come to know who I am. Living in contentment and joy is possible whether you're single, married, divorced, or widowed.
Getting married doesn't magically make you happy; happiness is a daily choice and continual attitude no matter the circumstances. I believe you when you say you're really happy, but believe me when I say I am too.
2. I want to be married
Don't get me wrong, I believe in marriage and want that for my life.
I apologize for my occasional sarcasm and bad attitude. I hope you know that just because I can be cynical and discouraged does not mean I don't believe in marriage. I do.
I want the forever best friend, the beautiful white dress, and the stability of true love. It's definitely something I think about and desire for my life. But until then, I can continue chasing other dreams and ambitions; I don't want to waste time waiting for prince charming to appear.
Also, feel free to set me up with people you know. But don't just say you want to- do it.
3. My story will be different than yours
You figured it out and found the person you want to be with forever, and I am sincerely happy for you! I love hearing about your experiences, but in reality, my story will probably be quite different.
What worked for you may not work for me. Every person is unique and every relationship is different. I honestly appreciate your advice and concern, but don't be offended if I follow my own intuition and direction. I will probably make mistakes, but I will learn from them. I need to figure this out on my own.
4. I need your encouragement
Dating is rough, as you know. Marriage is a big step and a huge decision. I worry if I will ever find someone compatible, and if all this heartbreak and frustration is actually worth it. So help me!
I need your encouragement and support. Tell me the blessings of marriage and the sweetness of total unity and trust. Give me hope that marriage works.
Also, I really don't mind being the third-wheel with you and your spouse. I actually love it because what I really need right now is friends.
Listen when I complain about dating, and eat ice cream with me after a breakup. I would love that.
5. Be honest with me
What challenges do you face? How can I prepare for marriage? What would you do differently?
Marriage is really difficult with many adjustments and compromises to make, and I want to know the truth. Tell me what you love about marriage, but tell me the hard stuff too. I want to know what qualities are most important now that you're married, and what I should look for in a spouse. Be honest with me and talk to me like an adult.
I need you in my life and value our relationship.