A lasting relationship needs daily nurturing if you don't want it to wither.
Kind gestures or words are necessary to keep the flame of love burning bright in your marriage. But some of your bad habits or lack of compassion can change your wife from the spunky, bright woman she used to be, into an insecure stranger. Avoid these five actions and save your beautiful relationship while you still can:
1. Lack of attention
Your wife understands that you have difficult days full of commitments and responsibilities, but she still wants you to spend time with her. She doesn't want to compete with your television programs, video games or cell phones. Regardless of your circumstances, she needs your attention, and she should be your number one priority.
2. Lack of praise
Women love to be praised, especially by their husbands. Compliments make your wife feel confident and loved, so don't shy away from admiring her attributes and qualities. Also, compliments don't have to stay behind closed doors. Give her praise in front of your family so everyone can see how much you adore her.
3. Lack of dating
You need to continue dating even after you are married, perhaps even more than you did before you exchanged vows. Dedicate a specific day of the week, or once a month if time allows, to spend an evening with your wife. Those fun, romantic date nights will make her fall for you all over again.
4. Excessive criticism
The daily grind causes both the good and bad sides of your personality to show, but a bad day doesn't give you the right to criticize your spouse. If your wife endures constant criticism from you, her confidence and your relationship will shatter. Remember that everyone has qualities to improve on. No one is perfect, but instead of criticizing her, offer her your support to better yourselves together.
It doesn't matter if you're comparing your wife to your mother or to a dear family friend, just don't do it. Comparing her to someone else will hurt her heart and her confidence deeply.
Where there is love, there is healing. Be aware of your wife and her needs, and also be aware of your attitude toward her. By doing so, you will have a long, happy life together.
This article was adapted and translated from the original, "5 maneiras em que os homens estão matando silenciosamente suas esposas." It was originally published on familia.com.br.