Even in a happy relationship, women complain about their husbands, and their complaints are almost always the same - he doesn't listen, he doesn't help at home, I don't understand him, etc. Sometimes these complaints are just that - complaints. But sometimes they are very valid and are impacting your marriage.
Here are six mistakes you might be making that are ruining your relationship with your wife:
1. You don't listen
This is the number one complaint wives have about their husbands. It's true that women tend to talk more than men, but it is also true that there are some men who pay little attention to women when they speak. Make the effort and listen to your wife when she wants to tell you something. Women like to be listened to, which is why they often confide in their other friends or family members if their mister won't lend a listening ear.
Offer her your shoulder even if you don't have a solution to her problems. This is important to her, and it will strengthen your relationship you two share.
2. You don't help out at home
Even if you work all day outside the house and she is at home with the children, that doesn't make it OK for you to lounge around once you come home. There is always work to be done in the home, and if your wife doesn't get to relax after work, it's unfair if you do.
Your wife deserves your respect and consideration. You should work side by side with her to keep your family happy and healthy. Show interest in the things that she is concerned about and you will see how quickly your marriage turns around.
3. You aren't a gentleman anymore
Most women want to marry a gentlemen. If you won her over with your chivalry, don't lose that over the years. Continue to feed the flame with compliments, special care and being especially affectionate with your wife. A hug and a "I love you" at the end of the day is often exactly what a woman needs to feel better.
4. You humiliate her
Don't ever say "you don't understand" just because you two might not see eye to on what goes on around the house. Marriage should be an equal partnership, and you should not have to put your wife down by assuming she can't understand a situation. You two should work together to raise a family, and that cannot be done when your wife feels like you don't respect the work that she does.
5. You don't take care of the children
For many women, being a good husband means being a good father. It's not just about playing with the kids for a while when you get home from work. It is a matter of being actively engaged in raising your children. Know what pajamas they love to sleep in, what food is their favorite, what games they prefer and so on. Many women complain that their husbands easily lose patience and don't want to do the hard parts of parenting - defy this stereotype and step in to wiping running noses and calming tantrums. You can do it.
6. You don't take care of her
Your wife would love to be surprised from time to time. Send her a box of goodies or come home with dinner so she doesn't have to worry about that tonight. It's not about being materialistic, it's about the gesture.
Marriage isn't an easy task; it's about making sacrifices to keep a good relationship strong throughout the years. Don't forget that you chose her to be with you for the rest of your life. Support her and keep communication open to help with misunderstandings.
This article has been adapted and translated from the original "6 razones por las que un hombre llega a ser un mal esposo." It was originally published on familias.com.