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You are dating an amazing guy that you couldn’t imagine ever leaving. When it comes to marriage, though, you pause to think if he really is the one. Marriage is a huge commitment that should not be taken lightly. The red flags you put up with dating a guy might not be ones you can handle once you tie the knot. Here are some signs that he would make a bad husband, and divorce would only be in your future.

You have different values.

When you're dating someone, it's not as big of a deal if both of you are not on the same page when it came to things like religion, politics, and family. It doesn't have to be a deal-breaker. If anything, not seeing things that same way can make for some riveting conversation and debates. When you're married, though, sharing core values is pretty important. What are both of your views on money? What are both of your personal goals? Do you both see yourselves having a large family? Do you have the same views on how to strengthen and grow together? Is God a top priority for you? Some of these things may not seem like a big deal now, but a whole lot of people are in divorce court over not being able to get on the same wavelength when it comes to core value issues.

You can’t really count on him to support you when things go south.

Boyfriends can get away with just celebrating the positive sides of you, but the same cannot be said about a husband. If he clams up and stonewalls every time bad stuff happens, marrying him means you’ll be on your own when things go south. You should feel comfortable coming to your partner about all the problems that might arise, and he should be able to offer a shoulder for you to cry on if that is what you need. He should look at your problems as his own and want to help support you through them.

He has a wandering eye.

It’s natural for us all to look at people we’re attracted to. However, there’s certainly a difference between having an innocent little look every now and then and openly chasing after other people while you’re in a committed relationship. The truth is if he has a wandering eye when you’re dating him that’s not likely to improve after you’re married. The ring will not stop him. You might even find that he starts chasing other girls even more than he did when he was just your boyfriend.

You frequently embarrass each other.

He is going to be a terrible husband if he mocks you in the presence of family and friends. If he can’t wait to inform his family and friends about your flaws, and doesn't care how it makes you feel, then you need to run. While he may think it's only a joke, embarrassing the person you love isn't fair. Furthermore, if he embarrasses you out in public you might need to reconsider how compatible you are. People will probably not take you seriously if your spouse is a complete wreck among professionals and normal society. Eventually, he’ll pick up on the fact that you’re embarrassed by him and it will ruin your relationship.

He is disrespectful towards other women.

Is he always disrespecting the women around him whether or not he knows them? Perhaps he belittles or considers women second-rate and has quite a potty mouth when it comes to speaking of them. If this is the case, are you sure you want to be with someone like this, let alone tie the knot? He sounds like someone who needs to be taught a serious lesson about respecting women. If he doesn’t respect women in general, then he’s definitely not going to respect his future wife.

Your family and friends do not approve of him.

When you are in love, you tend to view our partners with rose-colored glasses. For some reason, your family and friends don’t feel the same way you do about him. If they are warning you about the person you’re with, you need to take a step back and really reconsider. These people love you and want only the best for you. Those that are closest to us can see what we refuse to see. So when you have all the fuzzy wuzzies going on in your stomach about a man, but your family is on high alert make sure to pay attention.

You keep little secrets from each other.

It's completely normal to want to keep a few things to yourself, but if it gets to the point where the secrets you keep from your partner are starting to add up, whether they are serious or not, you need to ask yourself why that's the case. If your secrecy is born out of a desire to avoid your partner's potential overreaction to what would generally be considered acceptable behavior, like occasionally buying yourself something small or hanging out with a friend, then there is definitely cause for concern.

Just because the person you are dating makes a great boyfriend does not mean that they will one day make a great husband. It is OK to come to the realization that being with them is only good for right now, but not forever. Pay attention to the values you want in a husband and do not waiver on your choices. This is the person you will spend the rest of your life with.

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